The other day, I reposted a link to Frank Bruni’s, Op/Ed
piece in the New York Times, “Read, Kids, Read.” Bruni cites a study that
recently revealed “fewer than 20 percent of 17-year-olds now read for pleasure almost every day. Back in 1984, 31 percent did.” What an incredibly
disheartening statistic. Aside from the nearly irrefutable fact that reading is
linked with higher intelligence, this speaks to our culture of instant
gratification found through digital technology. Those few who are actually
reading are slowing down their pace of life. Sitting with a novel, albeit in
the hard copy or tablet format (I still very much prefer the hard copy; the act
of turning the page, and yes, I’ll admit it – smelling the book), takes time.
Reading for pleasure is not something I’ve been able to
figure out how to incorporate back into my life post the birth of my daughter.
I have cued up on a list the next several books I’d like to read and have promised
myself that I will pick them up this summer. I used to read before going to
bed, but I go to bed so early now that if I read before bed, I’d be getting
into bed at 8 o’clock, thus leaving little time for catching up with my husband
after the baby goes to bed. An excuse? Perhaps, but perception is reality and
that is my current reality.
There is a larger issue at hand, though. Time. The pace
of it all. How we’re always looking to get things done more efficiently so that
we have more time. And yet despite all the gadgets, aps, and time savers
available, there doesn’t seem to be any time gained. I’m guilty of it. Just
this morning I was trolling Pinterest for “quick and healthy recipes.” The
irony is, last night after watching an episode of Anthony Bourdain: Parts
Unknown, where he travels to France, my husband and I were talking about the
culture of food in France as compared to here in the states. We’re all about
the hurry-up, the fast-food, the “quick and easy.” I remarked to Big Red that
we need more of that in our lives where the ingredients and the cooking of
those ingredients becomes part of the leisure and enjoyment. That dinner is
more than just a wolf-down in front of the television, but a reason to stop and
relax. How we are to accomplish this with a seven month old escapes me.
From time to time I get these romantic notions that I
will only buy the freshest ingredients from our local farmers' markets, maybe
even join a CSA, cook it all from scratch, and we’ll sit down to each meal
prepared with a glass of wine. Sounds lovely, doesn’t it? I have yet to transform this vision from black and white to Technicolor.
Here’s what I don’t want, and forgive me if I digress. I
don’t want my daughter learning that the end goal is to hurry-up and finish
whatever it is we’re doing, whether it’s cooking, eating, or yes, even
cleaning. Nor do I want her learning to turn to the television to fill in the
blank spaces. As of today, I’m hosting an internal battlefield as to whether or not the
TV is in fact abominable, and if I should fight to change the current. It’s how I grew
up and I’d like to believe I turned out alright. As I’ve said before, monkey
see, monkey do – so if I’m not willing to change my own television watching
habits, how could I ever expect her to learn otherwise? Some days I want to get
rid of the bright shiny box, and other days I’m like, “Nah, it’s not so bad – I
really love watching Real Housewives of ______.” As my students would say, this
is “the struggle.” I’m riding the “struggle bus,” when it comes to television.
Lucille deserves the bucolic childhood that every kid should
have; playing in the park, rolling down the hill in the backyard, riding her
bicycle, painting, running through the sprinklers, drawing, fishing, and reading
at her leisure with a flashlight inside the fort she built out of couch
cushions and bed sheets – a modern day Laura Ingalls.
Maybe it’s more about balance and less about definitely exclude this or must include that. Not every dinner in our
household will be a pastoral farm-to-table, but maybe we can work those in a
couple times a week…at some point...someday down the line. So she may watch
cartoons on Saturday mornings; I have fond memories of watching such with my
younger brother, and we often were playing while
watching The Smurfs. We’d dump the bin of Legos out on the floor and
create mansions while He-Man battled villains or Jem made sure those pesky
Misfits didn’t thwart her latest Holograms concert. I used my imagination. I
did. And so will she.
This issue of time will never leave, and is something I’ll
have to reckon with. My daughter is seven months old already. It’s such a tired
cliché, but it really is all happening so quickly, and I find myself in isolated
cyclones of panic knowing that I’m never going to get this moment back. It is terrifying. Yesterday, I only saw her for a few minutes in
the morning. Professional duties occupied my afternoon and evening, thwarting
my time with her before she went to bed for the night. This morning, when I fed
her at 5 am, I found myself running my cheek along her downy head of hair,
inhaling that magical sweet scent. My free hand gently playing with hers as she
grasped my fingers in a milk-drunk trance. I found rapture in the weight of her
body against mine. In the cloaked darkness of her room, the morning chorus of
birds beginning their hymns just outside her window, I savored every moment.
Time, for once, was not my nemesis.
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